Dearest Kayden

I thought hard about what I should write and about what I want you to know. Life is tough at times, things don't always turn out the way you would expect & I wish someone would have told me some of the hard things I would face as I got older, but I know you have to learn lessons sometimes on your own. I still want to share with you some things I've learned. I always have this question in my mind how do I teach you, mold you, guide you into being the man I hope you will be? What are the lessons I want you to know? So I just wrote and wrote in hopes that when you read this someday you'll have something to guide you, and to kinda laugh at with me. I know you will grow into the man you want to be, but me and some others wanted to incorporate things along the way. I know I will i'm sure find more things to add to this as you grow but for now we have this...

Anything worth having is worth working hard for weather it be at school, a sport, a job or even love.

Manners are important! Opening a door for a lady is not optional, saying thank you is the utmost important, always offer you coat & your hand.

You love music, don't ever lose this. Music is powerful use it when you are at your highs and lows it will get you thru everything.

Follow your dreams where ever they may lead you.

Always know you are loved by many. 

Never scratch your genitals in public & also don't wear your pants below your butt that isn't what the person who made them had in mind nor is it cute!

Don't lie! Lying leads to no one trusting you or the things you say. 

Never be afraid to tell me or your dad ANYTHING! We will always welcome your ideas & mishaps with an open mind & heart. (grandmas, grandpas, aunties & uncles are there too)

Remember no one is perfect & people make mistakes it is all about learning from them. 

Be kind to unkind people - they need it the most. 

Read as many books as you can. They will take you places you've never been.

Treat girls, women & ladies with respect! 

Don't take the ones you love for granted sometimes they will not always stick around if you do.

You DON'T need alcohol, drugs or cigarettes to have a good time! 

Always have a firm handshake. It shows confidence!

Your grandpa Dicker always told me lending someone money can ruin a relationship and can also take a toll on your bank account. 

Take care of your car! It may sound silly but they are expensive, change the oil when you are suppose to, never let it run out of gas, learn how to pump your own gas, and obey the law.

Don't be afraid to ask people for help when you need it, Especially god.

Take time off, Vacations are good take them when you can cause everyone needs to recharge their batteries.

Love fiercely! This does not mean sleep around with a bunch of women. Love one woman fiercely cause one will always be enough.

Wrap it before you tap it! Yes that's right I just said that. You don't want any unplanned pregnacies & STDs. When you do have sex (which lets face it you will one day) is it suppose to be between you and the woman you love but this isn't always the case. 

Be a loyal friend and a good listener. Some people just want someone to listen without judgement. 

Don't let ANYONE ever put your ideas or dreams down they may not be wise enough to know how brilliant they truly are. 

This may be a pointless statement but please try not to break anyones heart sometimes it's hard to avoid just try. 

Use your imagination for as long as you can. It sucks when it goes away.

Most of all Cherish being young. People in your generation want to grow up too fast. Being a grown up never goes away, being young does. 

Always remember mommy loves you.